February was so good. It was full of adventures and snow, progress and training, and it marked the start of my third trimester. But I will admit : the beginning of February was really hard because of one word: indecision. There were so many big things we had to make decisions about, and they were hard. For whatever reason, Will and I could not for the life of us decide where to take our babymoon. I couldn’t decide whether to not to take a trip to Nashville to run a 15K and surprise my sister, or stay home. I couldn’t decide whether to say yes or no to speaking engagements this fall. We are still trying to decide on a crib. I felt like I was stuck in this slump of indecision on so many levels, and it was rough.

One night when I was talking to my mom about it, she said something to me that really changed my mind about my indecision. She said, “Nancy, make a decision, then make it right.” In other words, it’s best to just go ahead and make the decision, then don’t look back to regret it! Boom. Then you can move forward and enjoy that decision! After agonizing for much to long, I simply said: we are doing this. So, we did plan a spontaneous trip to Nashville to visit my mom and surprise my sister and my niece Harper (it was her 7th birthday!). I secretly signed us both up to run in the Hot Chocolate 5K / 15K on Valentine’s Day! And guess what? It was SO worth it. My sister burst into tears when I walked in the door, and Harper wouldn’t stop hugging me. It was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made! I learned that it really is better to decide and move forward, rather than sit in the stress of indecision.

Also, after vacillating between Italy or California for our babymoon, we finally decided on California. And guess what? It absolutely was and is the right decision. Shorter flights (less swelling), more luxurious accommodations (thanks to more cushion in our budget), less stress to see and do all the things, no language barrier, warmer weather, focusing on one another rather than the hectic travel schedule (isn’t that what a babymoon is all about?) … it’s going to be perfect.

So, make March a month of decisions! What have you been putting off? What have you been agonizing over?
Make your decision, then make it right. Happy March, friends!

March Goals

• Read 12 in 12 : The Soul of Money & Baby Wise

• Announce our New Associate Photographer (check the blog this Wednesday!)

• Go on a Babymoon to California!

• Launch our new Financial Workshop

• Cook 2 new recipes from Bread and Wine with my sister

• Go Camping at the coast with friends (weather permitting!)

• Furnish the Nursery

• Have our Maternity Photos taken by Callie

• Savor our sweet baby shower

• Speak at Making Things Happen

• Run 2-3 times / week

February Goals

• Read 12 in 12: How to raise a Healthy Child in Spite of your Doctor
  (A super informative book given by some dear friends of mine!)

• Hire and begin training our new NRP Associate Photographer

• Create my 2015 Booklist

• Begin taking Birth Classes with Will (!)

• Host a team lunch

• Plan a team fun day for this Sprin

• Walk / Run a 15K

• Book our Babymoon

• Declutter Nursery Room + Guest Room Closet

• Paint the Nursery (we decided on a beautiful light grey)

• Clean out studio / back up all files to start fresh for the year*

• Choose dates for our financial workshop in the fall*
  *incomplete from last month

This baby makes me feel like I’m racing against the clock, because I am! And these sweet little kicks I’m feeling as I type are reminding me that time is ticking away… and all of this planning is worth it. I’m front loading this year, and backloading it, too – in order to make room for this baby and my maternity leave this summer. I have a vision in my head of May 1st : a clean and clutter free house, a new website about to launch, a large belly on a very active body (yes, I plan to run throughout my pregnancy!), and my travel, speaking, and wedding dates planned for the rest of the year.

I am far from that vision right now. My house feels very cluttered, I haven’t begun the new website process yet, I’ve slowed my running a bit after my 10K race. But it’s important to know : ALL GOALS START WITH A VISION. Otherwise, you don’t have a starting point for good goals!

I visualize that by the time this baby comes, I’m healthy and happy and all my ducks are in a row. Now, it’s time for me to roll up my sleeves and hustle. While this baby has taken me on a whirlwind of emotions (see this post, and come back tomorrow for another Baby Ray update), I am so thankful. God’s timing is good, and a tiny little life is about to enter into my world and change it forever. My goal setting, for the most part, hasn’t changed. But my focus has shifted :

less is more
people are more important than tasks
I need to care for my body more than ever
treasuring time with Will is my focus
my little family is the most important thing I can invest in

Time is flying. Let’s do this, February!

Happy New Year, friends! It’s January 1st, 2015.

Take a deep breath and thank God for a brand new season of life.
This is your year to change,
to do something different,
to take hold of the life you’ve always wanted.

If you’ve never set goals before, you can start today.
If you’ve failed at previous goals, you can try again.
If you don’t even know where to start, take hope! Just don’t give up.

I am excited to share with you my brand new Goal Setting Guide – a brief and easy guide to setting goals for your year! It’s a free PDF download that you’ll receive as soon as you sign up for the Nancy Ray News. Just look to the right sidebar to see where you can signup! (Already signed up? No worries! You will receive it in the newsletter that goes out today!)

I’ll be honest : setting goals for 2015 was really hard for me. I have been setting my yearly goals on January 1st for the past 5 years, but I’ve never had to include a major anticipated life event in my goals. Knowing that this baby will change my life and my business dynamics in ways unknown, knowing that I have to block off a season to only focus on being a Mama… all of that left me frozen in the goals category of life. Major goal block. I didn’t even know where to start. Would I still be able to read as much as I want? To exercise? To travel? How do I launch a new workshop or dream, or should I put everything on hold?

So, I did 3 things to get me back on track again:
1. I asked my friends who are Mamas and business owners to help me be realistic in my goals. (How much time should I take off? How many weddings should I plan to shoot? How do I handle emails and editing? What are good goals for me to set during my maternity leave?)
2. I reminded myself to set SMART goals that are Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Timely. Again, my main focus here is that I want to set attainable / realistic goals for 2015. I want to set myself up for success, not failure. (I tend to be an overachiever and set unrealistically high goals!)
3. I broke my year up into 3 parts, which really helped me wrap my head around taking a successful maternity leave. Seeing the entire context of my year broken up like that really allowed me to say, “I can do this.”

And now that I have an outlined plan, now that I have strong goals centered on meaningful work, now that my priorities are aligned with what matters most (hello, 4 month maternity leave!), I feel like I can do this. Yes, I am entering into 2015 with open hands, knowing that the Lord is in control and that His plans are greater than mine. Yes, I know that my plans could change and might not look like this by the end of next year. BUT I’m not going to let this giant unknown season of my life squelch all of my dreams and hopes and goals. I will continue to dream dreams and to set goals and to reach high, knowing that:

If you aim at nothing, you will hit it every time.
Zig Ziglar

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2015 Goals

January – April
– Rebrand for NRP
– Hire a new Associate Photographer
– Launch a financial workshop with Will
– Photograph an editorial
– Invest in the NRP Team through weekly meetings + a team fun day
– Walk/run a 15K
– Declutter my home
– Prepare the nursery
– Go on a baby moon

May – August
– Have a baby!
– Take a successful 4 month maternity leave
– Restructure my daily routines

September – December
– Give myself lots of grace as we figure out life with a baby
– Launch 3 new products in the NRP Store
– Host a financial workshop with Will
– Run a 5K

Throughout the year
– Read 12 books
– Teach 4 mentor sessions
– Shoot 35 weddings & 35 sessions as a studio
(I will only be shooting 10)
– Speak at 3 conferences

The most vital part of my goal setting process is simply this : set monthly goals. Let your yearly goals guide what you write. Break them down across the 12 months of the year, then implement them in 4-week timeframes. That is the perfect amount of time to really accomplish some things. So, along with my yearly goals, here are my goals for January, 2015:

January Goals

• Finish interviewing and make a decision on the new NRP Associate Photographer

• Choose dates for our financial workshop in the fall

• Choose dates and location for baby moon in the spring

• Email vendors about editorial photoshoot ideas and dates

• Clean out nursery room and decide on a paint color

• Register for a 15K in February

• Start NRP Team Meetings up again, decide on dates for Spring fun day

• Clean out studio / back up all files to start fresh for the year

One of the most powerful exercises you can do as you set your goals is to simply look back at the last year. What worked? What didn’t? I’ve been working through my friend Lara’s new 2015 Powersheets, and this was the most helpful exercise for me. (I highly recommend her Powersheets! It is a very thorough approach to digging deep and setting goals for the next 6 months.) It’s not fun to write about the goals you didn’t accomplish, but it’s important to acknowledge them and ask yourself, why didn’t they work? It has allowed me to see where my focus diminishes, and where I can make simple changes in my life to accomplish important goals.

Things that didn’t work well in 2014

– Mixed studio systems (too many going at once: ShootQ, Wunderlist, calendars, chalk wall, etc). We are almost to the point of having it perfectly streamlined, but it’s taken all year to sync our systems.
– Date nights should have been planned further in advance, to make the most of them.
– I did not read 20 books. I am currently on book 16!
– Living in a state of stress and not a state of joy. Asking the Lord to change my heart and attitude in a mighty way in 2015.
– Stop working on time. I am not great at time management, and cutting off work is a tough one for me when there’s always more to be done.
– I did not switch to clipless petals on my road bike or run a half marathon, all due to the slow healing of my ankle injury & then my pregnancy. (I’m 100% ok with that!)
– I wrote more often to our sponsored kids, but not monthly. I want to be a constant encouraging voice in their lives.
– I memorized very few Bible verses this year.

Things that worked well / What I accomplished in 2014

– Delegation and growth in my business: Callie taking over much of the studio day-to-day management, she’s shootings tons of weddings, and Elizabeth has found her stride as our family photographer.
– Team meetings + implementing everything we learned in The Advantage. It’s been a game changer.
– Healthy lifestyle, exercise and eating habits! We are shopping differently and are outside several times a week for a family run. I ran my first triathlon this year while I was 6 weeks pregnant! Pretty proud of that.
– Will working at home has been amazing. We established much more margin in our lives after Will stepped down from ministry. We miss it terribly, but we are grateful to have a bit more breathing room for our businesses and family to grow.
– I ate dessert much less often!
– I looked at social media much less by choosing 2 days a week to be completely social media free.
– Meaningful travel memories. We made time for lots of little getaways this year – sometimes with friends, sometimes with family, sometimes alone. We went camping, we enjoyed a trip to Beaufort, and we took our boat out skiing 5 times like we had hoped!
– I spoke at 6 conferences throughout the year. (This list + WPS, Pursue and the spring MTH)
– Consistent study of scripture and morning quiet times has been the foundation for our success.
– Living on less than we make, giving more, and investing more : those were our main financial goals, and we achieved all of them.
– Shooting in film! It was scary and wonderful and expensive and beautiful. All in all, we love it and are on track to be a film studio.

What about you? What are your hopes and goals for 2015? What will be different for you this year?

One thing I have learned in my years of goal-setting: it is SO inspiring and encouraging to read the goals of friends. If you have blogged or shared your goals somewhere, please leave a link in the comments below! I would love to hear from you!