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Contentment Challenge 2020
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Yes, it’s happening again! The Contentment Challenge is happening January - March of 2020, and you are invited to join in!

Many of you have been asking me if I’m hosting another Contentment Challenge, and the answer is yes. I’ve found, for me, it’s been life giving to do this once a year. (If you had told me that the first Contentment Challenge, I would have been like HECK NO!) But it’s amazing the work God has done in my heart, and so many of yours as well.

Like this message I got via instagram, just this week:

“I stumbled across the contentment challenge… it changed my life, and in particular, my marriage. Forever grateful.”

Will I do this every year for the rest of my life? Probably not. I’m not gonna be legalistic about it! But right now, in this material-driven culture, and with 3 little kids, I’ve found that it grounds me, again and again.

But let me back up a bit, for anyone new who might be reading.

What is the Contentment Challenge, you ask? Great question!

The Contentment Challenge

“I will give up shopping for clothes, accessories, household decor, and ‘stuff’ for three months, to focus my heart and mind on the root of true contentment. I will actively pursue fulfilling activities that will replace my addiction to material things.”

Where did this idea come from?

Well, you can listen to the whole story here. But here’s the story in a nutshell:

After paying off our house back in 2012, Will and I accomplished a huge financial goal we had sacrificed and worked for. Weeks afterwards, we began arguing about money wayyyy more than we ever had when living on a tight budget. I thought I could shop at Whole Foods and Anthropologie and do all the things I had sacrificed, and went over budget for 3 months straight. Sorry, Babe.

Then, I spoke at Making Things Happen, and God began to whisper the word “contentment” in my heart. “Nancy, are you really content? with just Me? or do you always have to buy new things?”

I felt a tugging on my heart to give up shopping for 3 months. After fighting the Lord in my head and heart for 2 days straight, I finally gave in. To do this well, I planned it out and created the Contentment Challenge, and it changed my life.

So if you’re curious, I created some guidelines that help guide the 3 months of no shopping and set our hearts straight. I hope this is helpful to you! You of course can make it your own, but I encourage you - pray about it. Consider it. And let God do a work in your heart, life, and finances that you never knew was possible.

The Guidelines:

• For the next 10 days, your homework is the following: prepare your heart, organize your closet, and make any necessary purchases that you might need during these months. (This is not a last minute shopping spree! This is one final trip to the store for items you will need, and the opportunity for you to say your goodbyes to Target.)

• Choose 1-3 inspiring books to read during this time. I would recommend any of the following: Seven, Weird, The Celebration of Discipline, 1000 Gifts, Essentialism. I’m planning to read one book (because newborn life): Cozy Minimalist Home. (Feel free to leave additional recommendations in the comments!)

• Gifts are okay! If someone gives you a new dress or piece of decor during that time, receive it graciously! If you need to buy someone else a gift, by all means, do so. The point is not to be rude, but to learn more of ourselves and the Lord.

• Necessities are okay! If you drop and break your phone, please go get a new one! If you lose your glasses, buy a new pair. Just don’t start justifying new purchases for items that you already have. (“I really need this bathing suit, even though there are 8 in my closet already.”)

• Food: please buy food for yourself and your family :). From my experience, this is a good time to stop grocery shopping at Target and instead choose a grocery store. Some who have done the contentment challenge have chosen to use this as a time to forgo eating out. If you eat out all the time, maybe it’s best for you to limit it to 2x a month. I’ll let you decide what you want to do here!

• You must actively pursue something – anything – that replaces your tendency to buy stuff. Begin thinking about something you love or a hobby you’ve always wanted to do, and make preparations to actually do it. (Reading and Running are my go-to hobbies!)

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If you’d like a little more information about the Contentment Challenge and how to prepare for it, download our FREE extended guide below! You’ll also get monthly emails once the challenge starts in January for accountability and encouragement!

Goals + Contentment Challenge
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I’ve never started off a year like this before!

Around the clock nursing, exhausted, learning the rhythms of being a mama of a newborn and a 1.5 year old and a 3 year old… I have to say, it is not the norm for me but it feels SO good.

My norm on January 1st? Putting away all Christmas decor, decluttering, dreaming up my wildest and best work goals, eating black eyed peas and collards, going on a run, feeling fresh and ready to GO.

Today? Being. Just being mama. Napping. Resting. Yes, dreaming. But mostly eating as much as I want (still eating black eyed peas and collards!), nursing a hungry baby, watching Milly and Lyndon play / wrestle each other, and being HOME. No decluttering or re-setting or going for a run like usual. Being thankful that I’m smack in the middle of maternity leave, reminding me of what matters the absolute most this year: my family.

Also, today begins the Contentment Challenge: no shopping for unnecessary stuff for 3 months! It’s not too late for you to join us - there’s a TON of people doing this together. Go read this blogpost to download your free guide and get inspiring emails weekly! And check out the #contentmentchallenge hashtag to see who is in on it!

With that in mind, Quarter One is all about being quiet and content. Maternity leave, the Contentment Challenge, and focusing on the people right in front of me. Which is so fitting with my word of the year, and hopefully it will keep me from distractions as I really focus in on it.


MY WORD OF THE YEAR IS

Delight


I prayed through my word of the year quite a bit, an ended up landing here because of the two definitions I found in the dictionary:

  1. To take great pleasure in

  2. To please someone greatly


This year, I want to simply take great pleasure in the goodness of God around me. To enjoy and be grateful for my home. To slow down and watch my babies grow. To realize that these are the little years, the exhausting years, the wonderful years.

This year, I also want to love others well. When I read the dictionary’s definition “to please someone greatly,” my spirit translated that into “love others well” or “love others greatly!”

So, boiling it down, I want to take pleasure in all the Lord has done for me and DELIGHT in it, while also being very intentional about DELIGHTING others and loving them well. I hope that’s what 2019 looks like for me.

To be honest, that’s why I launched this site - to serve and to love YOU. To speak truth and lessons learned.


With that in mind, I share my 2019 GOALS:

Delight in Maternity Leave

  • Play with each of my children

  • Give myself grace in healing, nursing, and becoming a newborn mama all over again

  • Enjoy not working!

  • Check in with the team / work as I feel inspired to work

Have our most purposeful year of Nancy Ray Photography

  • Photograph 6 Weddings

  • 4 Quarterly Planning Meetings with the team + individuals

  • 3 Growth Activities (A book, a conference, etc)

  • Give away a WEDDING! (Yes this is coming!)

Reset our Personal Finances with JOY

  • Complete the Contentment Challenge in Q1

  • Create a 2019 - 2020 Financial Gameplan for Paying off our house

  • Quarterly Meetings with Will for our Annual Saving, Giving and Spending Goals

  • Monthly Budget Committee Meetings with Will

Be a friend!

  • Host a girls night

  • Monthly accountability partner check-ins

  • Plan 4 Minki hangouts (Minkies = my 3 best friends)

  • Have 1 couple (minimum) over for dinner each quarter

Create a life-giving home

  • Read A Life Giving Home with the Nancy Ray Book Club throughout the year

  • Weekly Questions with Will (Blogpost coming on this)

  • Mind-Body-Soul time with each girl daily (Blogpost coming on this, too!)

  • Quarterly de-clutter and donation run

Speak Truth & Teach

  • Launch a Podcast and speak truth once a week

  • Blog Weekly

  • Send encouraging emails

  • Speak at 3 conferences

Take care of myself!

  • Read 6 (maybe 7) books with the Nancy Ray Book Club

  • Join the YMCA or Run a Race

  • Prioritize sleep when I can

  • Maintain personal photos every month

All in all, I have 7 main goals for 2019, each with sub-categories that will fulfill those goals. In a year I’m learning to be a mama of 2 little ladies and one little man, that feels just right.

I can already tell that 2019 is going to be a special year. I’m coming in quiet on maternity leave, and I love that. My hope is to start this year quiet and rooted, to listen to and to love those right in front of me. And then to let the Lord lead and guide me in every endeavor, growing along the way.

If you blog your yearly goals, I would love for you to leave a comment including a link below! It is so encouraging to read others goals. And if you don’t have a blog, simply share your word of the year or one goal you hope to accomplish, so we can cheer one another on!


Contentment Challenge 2019
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Well friend, here we are again. It’s been over 5 years since God put the Contentment Challenge on my heart for the first time. Since then, I’ve done the Contentment Challenge about once a year, and again and again, it changes me. Which is why, on January 1st, I’m doing it again!

My friend Kat is joining me, and I’d love for you to pray about joining us, too.

So what is the Contentment Challenge, you ask? GREAT question!

Here’s the story in a nutshell:

After paying off our house back in 2012, Will and I accomplished a huge financial goal we had sacrificed and worked for. Weeks afterwards, we began arguing about money wayyyy more than we ever had when living on a tight budget. I thought I could shop at Whole Foods and Anthropologie and do all the things I had sacrificed, and went over budget for 3 months straight. Sorry, Babe.

Then, I spoke at Making Things Happen, and God began to whisper the word “contentment” in my heart. “Nancy, are you really content? with just Me? or do you always have to buy new things?”

I felt a tugging on my heart to give up shopping for 3 months. After fighting the Lord in my head and heart for 2 days straight, I finally gave in. To do this well, I planned it out and created the Contentment Challenge:

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So after recently buying a new house (and buying a lot of new things), I’ve honestly fallen back into a lot of…

“Hey that’s cute!” (Clicks buy now button on Amazon)
“Goodness the girls would love that” (Throws it into my cart at Target)
“Look at that deal!” (Adds to Anthro’s online cart)

More than just a bad habit, it’s an underlying spiritual issue. I’m lacking in self discipline. I’m finding my joy in material things, not in the Lord. I’m straight up distracted from the precious souls in front of me, and I’m tired of it.

So for me, this contentment challenge is going to be focused on my heart. As I settle into being a newborn mama for the 3rd time, I’m asking God to SHOW ME real life. To be completely immersed in the GOOD things and gifts all around me. To be more in tune with relationships and family. That I’ll stop comparing my life, my house, my things with other people.

My prayer: God, what do you want MY LIFE to look like?

So, if you feel like you might also need a heart check…

If you feel like you want to experience JOY right where you are....

If you feel like you need to stop wishing for “one day” and praise God and live in TODAY…

Join us.

I can say this because I’ve done it before: The Contentment Challenge will change your life.

It’ll expose the ugly sides of yourself, but will expose the beauty of what you already have, too. And it’s ONLY 3 MONTHS of your life! It might feel like forever, but it’s so short in the grand scheme of your life.

So, if you want in, here are the guidelines for joining the Contentment Challenge 2019!

The Guidelines:

• For the next 10 days, your homework is the following: prepare your heart, organize your closet, and make any necessary purchases that you might need during these months. (This is not a last minute shopping spree! This is one final trip to the store for items you will need, and the opportunity for you to say your goodbyes to Target.)

• Choose 1-3 inspiring books to read during this time. I would recommend any of the following: Seven, Weird, The Celebration of Discipline, 1000 Gifts, Essentialism. I’m planning to read one book (because newborn life): Cozy Minimalist Home. (Feel free to leave additional recommendations in the comments!)

• Gifts are okay! If someone gives you a new dress or piece of decor during that time, receive it graciously! If you need to buy someone else a gift, by all means, do so. The point is not to be rude, but to learn more of ourselves and the Lord.

• Necessities are okay! If you drop and break your phone, please go get a new one! If you lose your glasses, buy a new pair. Just don’t start justifying new purchases for items that you already have. (“I really need this bathing suit, even though there are 8 in my closet already.”)

• Food: please buy food for yourself and your family :). From my experience, this is a good time to stop grocery shopping at Target and instead choose a grocery store. Some who have done the contentment challenge have chosen to use this as a time to forgo eating out. If you eat out all the time, maybe it’s best for you to limit it to 2x a month. I’ll let you decide what you want to do here!

• You must actively pursue something – anything – that replaces your tendency to buy stuff. Begin thinking about something you love or a hobby you’ve always wanted to do, and make preparations to actually do it. (Reading and Running are my go-to hobbies!)

•••

If you’d like a little more information about the Contentment Challenge and how to prepare for it, download our FREE extended guide below! You’ll also get monthly emails once the challenge starts in January for accountability and encouragement!

Finally, the official hashtag is #contentmentchallenge! So be sure to share your struggles and victories along the way on Instagram. Who’s with me?