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My Goal Setting Ritual
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Every year in December, I plan a time to get away, pray over the following year, and set goals. Some years I have super clarity on what I want to do, and other years I’m confused and don’t know where to start. BUT, when I follow this plan, I always walk away with more clarity than if I hadn’t done anything at all.

As a mama, the first key to this is to PLAN AHEAD! Plan an afternoon or evening to myself. I schedule it in the calendar ahead of time and ask Will to watch the girls.

Then, I buy all the Goal Setting Things:

Step 1: I work through my Powersheets the month of December

One thing I’ve learned about Powersheets over the years: they take time, and I am impatient. They are amazing because they are very thorough, but goodness I like to get going much faster and sometimes I’ll skip doing the work if I don’t plan for the time to do it. So, in the beginning of December, I begin working through the Prep Work of Powersheets as part of my morning routine or in the evenings before I go to bed.

Step 2: The White Board Brainstorm

This part is so fun for me! I get a big white poster board (less than $2), a fat Sharpie, and I write 2019 at the top of it. During naptime one afternoon, I brainstorm all kinds of ideas for the year. I try to hit all the major categories: work, health, relationships, etc. Here’s what one looked like for me a few years back!

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After I complete my brainstorm, I take a picture of it so I can have it on my phone to reference for the next step.

Step 3: An Afternoon Away for Mama

This is the final step in my yearly goal setting tradition. I love getting away to a coffee shop - preferably one that is less busy where I won’t be interrupted. Then I finish and finalize my Powersheets, referencing the photo of my White Poster Board the whole time. Once they are finalized, I blog them here to share for accountability! And because I love reading other people’s goals, too!

Do you have a yearly goal setting ritual?

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December Goals
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Since 2011, I have been blogging my monthly goals over on the Nancy Ray Photography blog EVERY. SINGLE. MONTH. I can honestly say I don’t think I missed a month since I began! There is something powerful about sharing your monthly goals, because it keeps you accountable.

Starting on January 1st, 2019, I’ll be blogging my monthly goals here! You can expect very little from me the first few months of the year, as I’m settling into becoming a mama of 3. But even still, I find myself grounded if I can choose just a few things to aim for every month.

I’m already working through my new Powersheets (they are seriously amazing this year!), and while I’ll be spending Q1 on maternity leave, I’m excited to focus on goals for myself and my family - not so much work. It’s refreshing and good!

And in case you’re wondering, I have 3 simple goals this December…

  • Have my 3rd baby girl

  • Enjoy a simple Christmas

  • Celebrate the quietest 32nd birthday at home

Of all my goal blogposts I've ever written, full of aspirations and dreams and books and achievements, this one is by far my favorite.

Here’s to a season of setting heart goals and staying quiet.

Xo


The New Ray Home

I can hardly believe I’m typing these words…

We bought a house!

This has been a long time coming. We have been praying about moving for over a year now, we came very close to buying two other houses that fell through along the way (with lots of heartache and disappointment), and we are convinced that God was holding out the very best for us throughout this journey. Goodness it feels SO GOOD to finally share this news! We are absolutely in LOVE with our new home!! (I promise Milly is happy about it, in spite of her face below, ha!)

For the last 8.5 years, we have lived in our beloved townhome. When we moved in, it felt massive compared to our first apartment. A 3 bedroom, 3 story townhome was the perfect fit for our life, as the first floor accommodated our garage and the NRP studio space, the 2nd floor is our kitchen / living / dining area, and our 3rd floor are our 3 bedrooms. We had room to spare!

Fast forward to 2018: we are busting at the seams! Our 3 bedroom townhouse now hosts so many wonderful people: Me, Will, our two precious little girls who share a room, our great dane Winston, my team: Callie, Olivia, Jen, our intern, our wonderful nanny, and often times brides and potential clients. Will and I both work from home (his office doubles as our pop up guest room), so on days we are all here… it gets quite fun ;).

Our journey has been so unique. We paid off our townhome back in 2012, and we believe strongly in living debt free. It has been incredible to live 100% debt free for 5 years now, and we have been saving all along the way.

And even so, we’ve had a lot of life changes along the way. 2 new babies. 2 job changes for Will. 2 maternity leaves for me.

Enter: a lot of grace that I’ve had to heap on myself. Because in all of that saving and planning, LIFE happened. And while it was my greatest dream to pay for our next house in cash, we didn’t meet the savings goals we needed to do so.

I’m going to be honest: I struggled with this a LOT. I felt immense shame and guilt for carrying that debt free banner and now going back into debt for this new house. It’s been something I’ve been wrestling with over and over. (You can listen more about that here.) But two significant things happened that confirmed this was the right step for us:

1. A godly friend of ours called me out on my pride, and how too much of my identity was swept up in debt freedom. He looked at us and said the best thing for us would be to go back into debt, to make sure our identity is in Jesus and not our accomplishments. #ouch. But man, I needed to hear that.

2. I re-learned, for the thousandth time, that contentment is never in a finish line. Contentment doesn’t ever arrive because of an accomplishment or goal. Contentment is something I get to choose: whether I’m debt free or not. Whether I’m where I want to be or not. So this next chapter of contentment is not one I would have written myself, but in laying down my pride, I’m choosing to be content yet again.

So, with ALL of that said, I’m incredibly grateful. This house is already such a blessing! And we still have plans to pay it off in 3 years or less, God willing, realizing that lots more life will happen along the way.

So here’s the story in a nutshell:

October: We began looking
November: House #1 falls through
December: More looking
January: House #2 falls through
February: More looking
March: Found a foreclosure house + put an offer on it!
May: Closed on our house, Renovations began
June: MOVE!

(I took this selfie after we looked at 6 houses in 1 day, knowing we had just found THE house.)

Here are some things I’m MOST excited about:

• A yard!! We will be living on over an acre. Winston will be BESIDE himself.
• A giant driveway to accommodate parking (instead of our current tiny shared guest lot)
• A completely separate NRP studio building – on the same property!
• A bonus room for the kiddos
• A kitchen with a farmhouse sink
• So many garages.
• Linen closets (I’ve never had one!) and extra storage closets
• It’s out in the country
• A freestanding tub (I just can’t)
• Real hardwoods

The freezing cold day we went to check out the house and get quotes for renovations.

Closing day Chick-fil-a picnic!

The new NRP Studio Space!

Me inside the new NRP studio!

The Kitchen “before” : that wall is coming down to open up an island

The Bathroom “before” : it’s already demolished

Me, being a total dork. I texted this selfie to my mom and sister when we decided to make any offer on it.

So there you have it. I’m a little in awe this is happening, and just so incredibly thankful. You can follow along with our renovations and move here on the blog and on Instagram @nancyray!